Online counselling for life’s difficult moments
For people who feel things deeply — lost, sad, disconnected, weighed down, or just not themselves
Maybe you’ve reached a point where you don’t feel quite like yourself anymore. You might feel lost, stuck, disconnected or unsettled without fully knowing why, or find yourself questioning who you are and what you actually want. Perhaps you look capable from the outside, but inwardly you’re second-guessing yourself, wondering why you never seem to feel as sure of yourself as other people appear to, or feeling unable to trust what you feel or sense.
Perhaps something in your life has become difficult to carry. You might be feeling sad, worried or overwhelmed, struggling in a relationship, or dealing with a change you didn't expect. Maybe you're hard on yourself in ways other people don't see. You question your choices, worry about getting things wrong, or find criticism difficult to shake off. You might be used to putting other people's feelings first, adjusting yourself around what they need even when it doesn't feel comfortable for you.
Sometimes there is something clear that has brought you to therapy — a relationship ending, a loss or bereavement, a change in your circumstances, disappointment, or something from your past that has come back to the surface. At other times, there isn't one obvious reason. You just know that something feels off, life doesn't feel quite right, and you don't want to keep feeling the way you do.
A relational, reflective and embodied space that meets you where you are
Therapy can give you somewhere to bring the feelings you've been keeping to yourself, as well as the ones that have started to feel harder to contain. Over time, you might begin to feel less alone with what you're going through, and less harsh with yourself for finding it difficult.
You might find yourself able to notice what you need, to trust your own feelings and responses, and to say when something hurts. Perhaps it becomes easier to make decisions without questioning yourself quite so much, be kinder to yourself when you're struggling, and loosen some of the expectations you've spent years trying to live up to.
There may be things you can't change, and losses that will always matter. But how you live alongside them can change — giving you space to feel more present in your life, and more like yourself again.
I’m Laurie Hole, an online BACP-accredited psychotherapeutic counsellor working with adults through life's difficult or defining experiences — specialising in the losses and changes that affect us deeply.
However you feel, and whatever has brought you here, it's welcome
I work exclusively online with adults across the UK and Europe, offering an inclusive, neurodivergent-affirming and LGBTQIA+ allied space where all parts of you are welcome.
Why you might find yourself here:
Something has changed: a relationship has ended, work or family life has shifted, you've experienced rejection or disappointment, or life has taken a direction you weren't expecting.
Feelings don't seem to have an obvious cause: you're not going through anything you could point to, and yet the sadness, worry or heaviness is there anyway.
You're hard on yourself in ways other people don't see: the self-criticism, the standards, the pressure to get things right — much of it happens quietly, and you've never really said it out loud before.
Relationships feel difficult: you might feel lonely even when you're not alone, struggle to say when something hurts, worry about disappointing people, or find yourself caught in difficult relationships with family, friends or partners.
You've been carrying a lot for a long time: perhaps you're used to being the capable or dependable one, getting on with things and doing what needs to be done. Now it’s reached a point where carrying on in the same way just doesn't feel possible anymore.
Something from your past is still affecting you: an early relationship, bullying, rejection, feeling different or not belonging, or experiences you thought you'd left behind may still show up in how you feel about yourself or relate to other people.
You've lost someone or something that matters: perhaps someone has died, a relationship has ended or changed, or a future you'd imagined isn't going to happen. You're finding your feet in a life that doesn't feel quite the same.
Many of the people I work with recognise themselves in several of these experiences, while others may only connect with one or two. You don't need to have a name for what's wrong before you arrive.
Ready to take the first step?
Reaching out can feel daunting, but you don't have to figure it all out before you get in touch.
If you have a question I haven’t answered here, you’re always welcome to get in touch and ask.
Frequently Asked Questions
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You don’t need to have one clearly defined problem or know exactly what you want to work on before getting in touch. Something may have happened, you may be grieving a loss or change, struggling in a relationship, or finding that life simply feels harder than it used to. Or perhaps nothing obvious is wrong, but you feel sad, worried, overwhelmed or unlike yourself.
Often things overlap. We can start with whatever is happening for you and see where the work takes us.
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You don’t need to be in crisis or reach a particular level of difficulty before coming to therapy. Sometimes people seek counselling because something has happened; other times there’s a growing sense that something isn’t working, they don’t feel quite like themselves, or they simply don’t want to keep feeling the way they do.
You also don’t need to know in advance whether therapy will help. A free introductory call gives us a chance to talk briefly about what has brought you here and whether working together might feel like a good fit.
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No. You may already have a strong sense of where some of your difficulties come from, or you might have no idea why you feel the way you do.
We can begin with what you’re experiencing now. Sometimes connections with earlier relationships, losses or experiences become clearer as we go; at other times, what matters most is what’s happening in your life today. We don’t need to decide on an explanation before we start.
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There isn’t a threshold you need to cross before you’re allowed to ask for support. You might look at your life and think you should be coping, compare yourself with people who seem to have been through more, or struggle to explain why something has affected you as much as it has.
If something is affecting how you feel about yourself, your relationships or the way you’re living your life, we can make space for it without needing to prove that it is serious enough.
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I work online with individual adults across the UK and Europe. My practice is inclusive, neurodivergent-affirming and LGBTQIA+ allied, and I welcome people with different identities, backgrounds, relationships and ways of experiencing the world.
You don’t need to identify with a particular label or fit neatly into one of the areas described on my website. What matters is whether you feel that my way of working might suit what you’re looking for.
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Yes. I’m a registered and accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).
Being accredited means my training, experience and practice have been assessed against BACP’s professional standards. I work within their Ethical Framework, which sets out the responsibilities I have towards you as a client — including confidentiality, professional boundaries, working within my competence, ongoing supervision and continuing professional development.
For you, it means there are clear professional and ethical standards behind the way I practise, as well as accountability beyond our work together.