Online counselling for people who feel things deeply
For when you’re feeling lost, sad, disconnected, weighed down, or just not yourself
Maybe you’ve reached a point where you don’t feel quite like yourself anymore. You might feel lost, stuck, disconnected or unsettled without fully knowing why, or find yourself questioning who you are and what you actually want. Perhaps you look capable from the outside, but inwardly you’re second-guessing yourself, wondering why you never seem to feel as sure of yourself as other people appear to, or feeling unable to trust what you feel or sense.
Perhaps something in your life has become difficult to carry. You might be feeling sad, worried or overwhelmed, struggling in a relationship, or dealing with a change you didn't expect. Maybe you're hard on yourself in ways other people don't see. You question your choices, worry about getting things wrong, or find criticism difficult to shake off. You might be used to putting other people's feelings first, adjusting yourself around what they need even when it doesn't feel comfortable for you.
Sometimes there is something clear that has brought you to therapy — a relationship ending, a loss or bereavement, a change in your circumstances, disappointment, or something from your past that has come back to the surface. At other times, there isn't one obvious reason. You just know that something feels off, life doesn't feel quite right, and you don't want to keep feeling the way you do.
A relational, reflective and embodied space that meets you where you are
Therapy can offer somewhere to bring the feelings you've been keeping to yourself, as well as those that might be difficult to put into words. Somewhere you don't have to hold everything together or work everything out.
Over time, you might begin to feel more connected to yourself — noticing what you feel, what you need, and what matters to you. You might find yourself trusting your feelings and instincts more, rather than questioning or dismissing them, and feeling more able to make choices that feel right for you.
There can also be room to discover more of who you are, beyond the expectations you've lived with or the ways you've learnt to adapt to others. Not to become someone different, but to feel more at home with yourself, and more able to live in ways that feel true to you.
I'm Laurie Hole, an online BACP-accredited psychotherapeutic counsellor. My approach is rooted in curiosity and kindness, offering a space where you can slow down, connect with how you're feeling and give attention to parts of yourself that may have been overlooked or pushed aside.
However you feel, and whatever has brought you here, it's welcome
I work exclusively online with adults across the UK, offering an inclusive, neurodivergent-affirming and LGBTQIA+ allied space where all parts of you are welcome.
Why you might find yourself here:
Low self-esteem, self-doubt or a loud inner critic
Feeling stuck, lost or unsure of yourself
Low mood, sadness or depression
Anxiety, stress or feeling overwhelmed
People-pleasing or difficulty setting boundaries
Relationship difficulties or feeling disconnected from others
Life changes, transitions or experiences of loss
Questions around identity, belonging or feeling different
Burnout, exhaustion or feeling like you're always holding things together
Some of the people I work with recognise themselves in several of these experiences, while others may recognise themselves in just one or two. You don't need to have a name for what's wrong before you arrive, and nothing is too small to bring if it's causing you difficulty or distress.
Ready to take the first step?
Reaching out can feel daunting, but you don't have to figure it all out before you get in touch.
If you have a question I haven’t answered here, you’re always welcome to get in touch and ask.
Frequently Asked Questions
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You don’t need to have one clearly defined problem or know exactly what you want to work on before getting in touch. Something may have happened, you might be struggling in a relationship, questioning yourself more than usual, or finding that life simply feels harder than it used to. Or perhaps nothing obvious is wrong, but you feel sad, worried, overwhelmed or just not yourself.
Often things overlap. We can start with whatever is happening for you and see where the work takes us.
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You don’t need to be in crisis or reach a particular level of difficulty before coming to therapy. Sometimes people seek counselling because something has happened; other times there’s a growing sense that something isn’t working, they don’t feel quite like themselves, or they simply don’t want to keep feeling the way they do.
You also don’t need to know in advance whether therapy will help. A free introductory call gives us a chance to talk briefly about what has brought you here and whether working together might feel like a good fit.
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No. You may already have a strong sense of where some of your difficulties come from, or you might have no idea why you feel the way you do.
We can begin with what you’re experiencing now. Sometimes connections with earlier relationships, losses or experiences become clearer as we go; at other times, what matters most is what’s happening in your life today. We don’t need to decide on an explanation before we start.
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There isn’t a threshold you need to cross before you’re allowed to ask for support. You might look at your life and think you should be coping, compare yourself with people who seem to have been through more, or struggle to explain why something has affected you as much as it has.
If something is affecting how you feel about yourself, your relationships or the way you’re living your life, we can make space for it without needing to prove that it is serious enough.
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I work online with individual adults across the UK. My practice is inclusive, neurodivergent-affirming and LGBTQIA+ allied, and I welcome people with different identities, backgrounds, relationships and ways of experiencing the world.
You don’t need to identify with a particular label or fit neatly into one of the areas described on my website. What matters is whether you feel that my way of working might suit what you’re looking for.
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Yes. I’m a registered and accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).
Being accredited means my training, experience and practice have been assessed against BACP’s professional standards. I work within their Ethical Framework, which sets out the responsibilities I have towards you as a client — including confidentiality, professional boundaries, working within my competence, ongoing supervision and continuing professional development.
For you, it means there are clear professional and ethical standards behind the way I practise, as well as accountability beyond our work together.