Online counselling for people who feel deeply, think a lot, and often worry they’re “too much”
Support for people who second-guess themselves, replay conversations, and wonder why it always feels like they’re getting it wrong
Hello and welcome,
If you’ve arrived here wondering why telling yourself to “get over it”, “move on”, or “be more resilient” isn’t working, you’re in the right place.
You might find yourself replaying conversations, feeling stuck in decision paralysis, second-guessing yourself, and wondering why things seem to feel harder for you — at work or in social situations — than they do for others.
You may have spent years adapting to what others need, hiding parts of yourself to fit in or feel like you belong, filtering what you say, and trying to work out the “right” thing to do so no one notices how things feel for you.
Maybe you’ve noticed how small things can leave you feeling overwhelmed. Or how a passing comment can stay with you, leaving you feeling hurt or embarrassed. Or that despite everything you’ve achieved, it never quite feels like enough.
Perhaps this is starting to show up in your relationships too — falling into familiar patterns that leave you frustrated, or feeling more irritable, distant, or disconnected from the people around you.
Many of the people I work with arrive having spent a long time trying to work themselves out — analysing, overthinking, pushing themselves to “do better” — and still feel stuck. In our work together, we can make sense of what’s keeping you stuck, and find a way forward that feels more aligned with who you are and what matters to you.
Together, we can support you to:
☑︎ stop endlessly replaying conversations or worrying about how you come across
☑︎ make decisions more easily, without getting caught in loops of overthinking
☑︎ shake off the pressure of the “shoulds” and make choices that feel right for you
☑︎ experience relationships that feel more nurturing and less draining
☑︎ feel less pressure to get everything “right”
If something here feels familiar, you don’t have to keep trying to figure it out on your own — you’re very welcome to get in touch, or keep reading to learn more about how I work.
Laurie Hole
BACP Accredited Counsellor offering online therapy across the UK from Poole, Dorset.
Who I work with
You might be:
Struggling with how you see yourself:
☑︎ Caught in self-doubt and never feeling quite good enough.
☑︎ Carrying the pressure to always hold things together, even when it feels too much.
☑︎ Feeling numb, flat or disconnected for no clear reason.
☑︎ Holding a quiet belief that you’re somehow bad, unlikeable or “too much”.
☑︎ Finding it hard to switch off, rest, or stop being busy.
☑︎ Relying on self-criticism to keep yourself going
☑︎ Wondering if you’re “too sensitive”.
I work with adults who notice the same patterns showing up — in how they see themselves, how they feel, and in their relationships — and aren’t sure how to do things differently.
Finding relationships difficult:
☑︎ Caught in relationships that feel one-sided and emotionally draining.
☑︎ In complicated or distant relationships with your parent(s), including estrangement.
☑︎ Hiding how you really feel, worried you’ll be a burden to others.
☑︎ Wanting to help everyone else, but struggling to ask for help or care in return.
☑︎ Shutting down or feeling abandoned during conflict with people close to you.
☑︎ Feeling anxious in work or social situations, worrying about what everyone else thinks
Feeling overwhelmed or burnt out:
☑︎ Finding it hard to say no or to put your own needs first, often feeling guilty at the idea.
☑︎ Living with a constant sense of tension or pressure
☑︎ Struggling to name your feelings, or know what you’re feeling.
Therapy isn’t just for when something “big” happens.
Often, it’s about making sense of things that have been building over time.
You don’t need to have everything figured out before you begin — just a sense that something isn’t quite working for you anymore.
If you’d like to read more about how I work with things like self-doubt, overthinking, and people-pleasing, you can find more here.
If you’re unsure where to start, I’ve written a practical guide on how to find a counsellor in the UK, including what questions to ask and how to know if someone feels like a good fit.
You’re welcome to book a free initial call, or read more about how I work to see if online therapy with me feels right for you.