Individual Online Counselling for Adults across the UK

What if you could give yourself the same kindness you give to everyone else?

Perhaps you’re the one people call kind, conscientious, good-hearted. You’re quick to check everyone else is okay. You notice what people need. You willingly make sacrifices to help someone, and you say yes even if you really want to say no because you don’t want to let anyone down.

Maybe over time, you’ve started to notice that you’re feeling invisible, disconnected or generally unhappy. Perhaps there isn’t anything obvious to point to and it’s more a sense that life has started feeling heavy. Maybe you find yourself thinking “I’m just being sensitive” or when someone asks how you are, your response is always “I’m fine” or “I’m just a bit tired today”. Or maybe you’re questioning why you’re giving so much but have nothing left for you.

Collaborative, reflective and embodied therapy that meets you where you are

Whatever brings you here, therapy gives you somewhere to be honest about how things really feel. Working together, we can help you to reconnect with you, build a life that feels more like your own and make room for the parts of you that have been overlooked or pushed aside.

Open-ended therapy with weekly or fortnightly sessions, shaped around you and your needs.

Laurie Hole - BACP accredited psychotherapeutic counsellor offering online therapy across the UK from Poole, Dorset.

Working with you, not fitting you into a box

Every person who comes to therapy is different, so the way we work together should be too. My foundation is person-centred, which means I trust your own sense of what you might need, and the work always follows your pace. I also draw on trauma-informed, relational, body-based and parts-based approaches, bringing in whichever fits what’s actually happening for you, rather than asking you to fit a particular approach.

We’ll usually begin with what’s happening in your life now — how you’re feeling, what you’re struggling with, and the patterns or relationships that are causing difficulty. From there, we might find ourselves looking back at the relationships and experiences that shaped you: what you learnt about yourself, your feelings and your needs; the roles you found yourself taking on; and the ways you learnt to adapt or protect yourself. Not because everything happening now has to be explained by the past, but because the ways we learnt to adapt or protect ourselves can still shape how we feel and respond today.

Therapy with me explores more than just your thoughts about what’s happening. I’m interested in your whole experience — what you feel emotionally, what you notice in your body, the patterns you find yourself repeating, and even the things you sense but can’t quite find words for yet. This might mean exploring an experience and finding it starts to make sense differently. It might mean pausing to notice what’s happening in your body. It might mean getting curious about a part of you that’s reacting strongly or automatically — what it’s been trying to do for you, and whether it still needs to work quite so hard. Or using metaphor or creativity to explore something that doesn’t quite have words yet.

Curiosity and kindness are at the heart of how I work. We can get curious about how something came to be, while building compassion for the ways you learnt to adapt, cope, protect yourself, or carry on along the way. Working relationally, I stay attuned and responsive to whatever you bring, session by session — so the therapy fits you, rather than the other way around.

Sometimes you can understand something about yourself intellectually and still find yourself feeling or responding in exactly the same way. You might know that you’re allowed to say no, that somebody else’s mood isn’t your responsibility, or that what happened wasn’t your fault — but knowing it and feeling it can be very different things.

This is why I work from a humanistic-experiential foundation. As we make room for these experiences, something can gradually begin to feel different. The past doesn’t disappear but it may begin to have less power over how you feel about yourself or how you respond in the present.

When knowing isn't the same as feeling

Small shifts over time

Therapy doesn’t usually lead to one big lightbulb moment where everything suddenly feels different. More often, you begin to notice a series of smaller, less obvious shifts. This might look like:

  • trusting yourself more in the decisions you make, rather than immediately questioning whether you’ve got it wrong

  • asking for what you need in a relationship, or saying no without spending hours worrying you’ve upset someone

  • making choices based on what matters to you, and less on what you think you “should” do

  • catching yourself in an old relational pattern more often, and having the choice to respond differently

  • realising a relationship or situation doesn’t work for you anymore — and trusting that knowing

  • recognising when you’re angry, sad or anxious, and allowing yourself to feel that way rather than analysing, dismissing or questioning it

  • noticing when you’re becoming overloaded earlier, and responding to what you need before reaching overwhelm

  • beginning to believe that your feelings and needs matter, even when they’re different from someone else’s

  • finding ways to carry your loss with you, allowing your grief to be what it is, without feeling that moving forward means leaving behind who or what mattered

Together, these shifts can add up to something bigger: feeling more connected to yourself, more able to trust what you feel and need, and more present in your own life.

Fees & Session Information

Therapy is an investment — not just in feeling better — but in the relationship you have with yourself, now and in the future.

50-minute session — £85

Sessions run weekly or fortnightly — designed so you can choose what feels right for you. Fees are payable by bank transfer, 24 hours ahead of each session.

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Ready to take the first step?

If something you’ve read here feels familiar, and you’re wondering whether we might work well together, you’re welcome to book a free initial consultation. It’s a no-pressure conversation — a chance to ask questions, share a little about what’s bringing you to therapy, and get a sense of whether working together feels like the right fit.

If you have a question I haven’t answered here, you’re always welcome to get in touch and ask.

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